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Marriage can be fun after all!

R.M. Drake wrote, I quote, “I hope you find someone who doesn’t make you sad at night, someone who reminds you how much they love you every day and who laughs at your jokes. Someone who wants to listen to your music and who genuinely wants to be with you. I really hope you find that one, because you deserve that.”

Well, some wish on the star, get lucky occasionally, and find that person. For many marrieds, this remains a fairy tale. And that is Ok. Lucy and I realized early in our marriage that we are neither living a fairy tale nor in heaven. We also realized early that we both carried flaws and we were a work in progress, and thus, we agreed to put in the extra work and effort to make our marriage work. We realized and agreed that as we do this, we can’t both put in 100% effort but what matters is that we put in the effort and attempt to move and meet each other along the way.

We are not there yet; we are still a work in progress. It is a never-ending effort. We have to add a brick every day. Like farm work, there is always something to take care of each morning. Sometimes we would do it on our own but often we relied on the strength and knowledge of others to make it to the next step.

Lucy Peace Nantume, Ronald Kazibwe and other couples during A Couples' Getaway Retreat.

The support we have received so far on this journey was one of the motivations for us to start “The Couple Binders” to support others as we have and continue to be supported. The beauty is that every time we work with a couple on something, we also build ourselves and work on making something beautiful out of what we have.

Always remember, when things get difficult, as they will, if they have not done so already, the one who gives marriage foundation, God, is already in your boat. It won’t sink!

It’s now a month since we launched our website. It’s a milestone for us and we celebrate the achievement together with all those that have found it a northern star, pointing them to a place where they can be safe and thrive in their relationships and marriages. Over the month, we have shared a little insight into our 14-year journey in marriage and 18 years of a love relationship. I sincerely hope the experiences we have shared so far continue to open your eyes to the “bigger picture”.

Lucy and I hope and pray that as the days continue to unfold, you try; attempt if you can, to apply to your marriage the lessons that speak to your situations. Wearing a little of your shoes, and understanding that we are not yet in heaven, I know some of the topics we have covered over time might be basic in nature but complex in practicality. That’s ok, start with baby steps and continue the conversation, you never know, the marriage journey might afterall become more bearable and may be fun over time.

Always remember, when things get difficult, as they will, if they have not done so already, the one who gives marriage foundation, God, is already in your boat. It won’t sink!

Ronald Kazibwe

Ronald is a social worker with expertise in child development. Together with his wife, Lucy Peace Nantume, they are passionate about helping couples to thrive in their marriages. They are “The Couple Binders.” Visit their website www.thecouplebinders.com for more details about them and what they do.

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