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The Heart of a Father: Inspiring Acts of Care

To all actively present fathers out there like my husband, Ronald Kazibwe, bravo! You are making a great impact in the world through your role. “Do not get tired of doing good.” (Galatians 6:9)

My husband is an extraordinary man.

God has gifted him abundantly in many ways, and he carries the title of “Father” with grace. The endearing term “sweetheart” perfectly describes him. His heart is kind, overflowing with love, and he sees the beauty and goodness in everyone. Sharing life with him intimately has made me a better version of myself.

A few months into our marriage, I was offered a scholarship abroad. I considered declining, but Rony insisted I accept it. We made many adjustments, especially since I was expecting our first daughter. Despite the distance, he remained deeply involved, constantly checking in and traveling whenever possible. When the baby turned six months, I returned her home to Rony, so that I could go to Germany for some time to fulfil part of the study obligation and to finalize my research. I completed my master’s degree in law in less than a year, thanks to the sacrifices and adjustments my husband made.

Whatever shortcomings Rony may have as a husband (which are few), he more than makes up for as a father. He takes his role very seriously from the moment of conception. He not only reminds me to take my supplements but also finds the best folic acid and iron supplements that agree with my nausea. He made pregnancy bearable. Despite the discomforts I had to handle alone, he ensured I wasn't burdened by anything else. He would wake up early to prepare a salad or fruit for me to take to work. When I experienced episodes of low blood pressure that caused fainting, he rarely left me unaccompanied and would drive me wherever I needed to go. Attending antenatal visits was a priority for him.

Ronald Kazibwe with his lovely daughters and son

Rony-the primary caretaker at the birth of our children

All four of our children were born via C-section. Each time, Rony insisted on being the primary caretaker. He stayed at the hospital throughout my admission, bathing both me and the baby and managing every need. He educated himself on all aspects of childcare.

When our first child was born, we had limited financial means. To save on home bills, he would wash the soiled reusable diapers himself, saying, “This is not an easy job for anyone. It’s my child, so I will do it.” He would tell me to rest so I could heal faster.

In our culture, it’s common for women to return to their parents’ home post-delivery. My husband, however, defied convention by caring for me during those crucial weeks. He once told my mother that it was his role as a father to fully care for his wife and newborn child. His actions have inspired some of his friends to do the same for their wives. Rony would save his leave days to be home for up to a month post-delivery. Because of him, I strongly advocate for increased paternity leave.

His sisters, Prossy and Stella, witnessed his nurturing spirit firsthand. Prossy recalls how he practically raised her firstborn during his A-level vacation. Stella’s experience—where Ronald cared for her baby late into the night—speaks volumes about his compassion. He has babysat many of his nephews and nieces, which is why he shares a strong bond with them.

Ronald is present for every milestone. He knows our children intimately—their clothing sizes, shoe sizes, weight, height, and birth dates. When illness strikes, he’s vigilant, detecting fevers before they register on a thermometer. Regardless of fatigue or time, he rushes to the hospital. Attending his children’s events is not optional. He is the kind of father you will find in a salon for hours, waiting patiently for his three daughters.

Our Family's spiritual Leader

Of utmost importance, however, is his role as the spiritual leader of the family. The children observe him on his knees, submitting to the Lord through prayers, and they understand the significance of this practice. They witness his commitment to deepening his relationship with God by attending spiritual activities like retreats, sometimes alongside them. Through his example, they learn that investing in a relationship with God is essential. They watch him serve the Lord, especially in his current role as the head of laity of our Catholic community and recognize the importance of being God's servant.

His unwavering support has empowered me as a woman. Whatever I haven’t achieved is by choice, not due to a lack of support. Ronald is the wind beneath my wings—a loving husband and an exceptional father. 🌟❤️

Lucy Peace Nantume

Lucy is a wife, mother, daughter, and friend striving to serve God with her whole life. She is a lawyer with expertise in human rights. Together with her husband, Ronald Kazibwe, they are passionate about helping couples to thrive in their marriages. They are “The Couple Binders.” Visit their website www.thecouplebinders.com for more details about them and what they do.

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